Can men and women be friends?

Can men and women be friends?
By: Vlad Rodriguez

Really? Like really. Simple question but many views. Some people (mainly women) say it is possible and some say it is impossible. What do you think? I have changed my opinion over time on this subject matter.  I once thought that it was impossible because I know many guys and girls who are friends, yet the guy always has something to say about the female friend, and when I say something to say, I mean sexual.  Maybe I am wrong, but many women when they have a guy friend he really is just that, a guy friend.  Many dudes operate these friendships normally yet secretly in love with the female friend. And if not secretly in love he just has a dirty mind and takes advantage of any opportunity that presents itself for instance if she bends over to pick something up. I have in the past mentioned situations like this to females and they looked at me like I was insane, like they never thought about their male friend in any another way and they are sure that he never thought about them like that. But some fail to realize that the train of thought of a woman is not the same as a man. The woman's train of thought is express while the man goes locally (like the 1 train and the 2 train). Hmmmm.

I must admit that over the years I have changed my views. I think a man and a woman can be friends as long as there is one factor involve. Age and experience. As you start reaching that hill that looked so far years ago and now seems to be right there things change. Life changes. Your perspective takes twist like a twizzler and what you thought was one thing is actually something else now. I think age it is a factor because it gets to a point that wait wait I forgot about something. I was speaking with a friend, a female one, and she said something that had me thinking for hours. She said that "people are friends because they are somehow attracted to each other". Now it is easy to agree and be like yeah, but wait a minute now, think about this. Attracted, that word captivated me when she put it in that sentence. Maybe she is right and people, mainly men and women, are somehow attracted to each other. But what kind of attraction? is it sexual? or is it to the other person's personality. I guess we can say the friend's personality. But being attracted to somebodies personality would you not say that somewhere in your mind there might be some sexual desire. I mean I was thinking that at this point of my life men and women can be friends so long as the man has many experiences in his "woman resume" and a couple of "relationship championship belts" (is not for you to understand).  But then I got caught in that bomb of a quote "people are friends because they are somehow attracted to each other", and I know she meant nothing sexual but more about the other's mind and way of being.  But what if there is some inner desire there in a couple of cabinets in your subconscious. The cabinets might be locked up but they are there, and one day something can trigger a key to pop up out of nowhere and next thing you know..forget I might be getting a little to ahead of myself. I conclude with this: Men and women can be friends as long as we men can control out dirty minds, no I don't like this ending lets try it again. I conclude with this: I think men and women can be friends as long as there is respect. Yeah that is better.

Nature: What Females Want and Males Will Do